Then you aren’t listening.
Here’s the point: setting a realistic target and holding to it gives you the guidance as to what is actually possible.
Right now, you’re both throwing shitty offers back at each other. Neither of you have came to the table with something that actually makes sense for either party involved. You’re both wasting each other’s time.
If you want an aggressive deal, your only value to the dealer is to be the quickest, easiest sale they have ever had so they can add to their volume numbers and move on. Going back and forth with unreasonable offers doesn’t achieve that. You’re both burning calories on something that isn’t going to happen.
Your negotiations with this dealer should be done. Take their phone number out of your phone. Delete their email address. The bridge has been burned. Start fresh with someone new on a foundation built to provide success.
You need to work out what is an actual, realistic target. Right now, the dealer is probably about $4k away from that and you’re probably about $6k away from that, based on what I recall seeing. Obviously, you should substantiate those numbers with some research rather than going off of my memory.
As for mf or discount… it doesn’t matter. MF mark ups are very common with LR dealers (although .001 is extra ridiculous), but frankly, you shouldn’t care. If the dealer is able to go deeper on a discount with a marked up MF, let them. It’s in your best interest. Likewise, if they’d rather go buy rate with less of a discount, let them.
Establish a solid pre-incentive discount target, normalized for buy rate and reasonable dealer fees, and plug in the current lease programs. Work out what your monthly/DAS should be, offer than, and let them decide how they want to structure the contract to get there. There are times where it’s beneficial to work through the lease terms specifically rather than give a monthly/DAS offer, but this likely isn’t one of them.